Henry David Thoreau defined success as, “If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”  Thoreau knew that “success” should be defined by the individual who dreams it because he/she is the only one who can define it for one’s self.  Indeed, you are the author of that dream and not only are you the author of that dream, you must possess the confidence to pursue and know that it will come to fruition.

There are powerful psychological forces that become obstacles and prevent us from turning our current reality into the future we dream of. I’m often saddened when people tell me that they have in fact forgotten their dream and uncovering one’s life purpose becomes an excavation.  Most people know their passion and their dreams. Pursing and incorporating one’s passion and dreams into daily life while continuing confidently on that path leads to many roadblocks; however, we are equipped and meant to overcome these challenges!

Identifying those obstacles and overcoming them can become a lifelong challenge. I’ve identified ways to assist you in identifying and overcoming common obstacles.

  1. First, you should evaluate your dreams and make sure that you’re the author of these dreams. Often times our goals and dreams have been driven by parents, society and/or cultural expectations. These all culminate and play a strong influence in what we want to achieve. Success is determined by you. Make sure the dream you have locked onto is truly yours.
  2. What is the difference between a dream and a goal? A dream is realized when you have reached your fullest potential and the idea of this success fills you with peace and joy.  Goals, on the other hand, are specific and are attached to a timeline. Dreams need to be broken down into specific goals in order to make them clear, specific and attainable.
  3. Breaking through your obstacles and achieving success means identifying the psychological forces that resist change.
    • Identify fears you hold around change and what it will mean to succeed.
    • Is your identity tied to your wounds? Will you lose support and/or people if you were “healthy”?
    • Do you have healthy coping skills to deal with negative emotions? Do you have a plan on how to deal with setbacks? Set yourself up in a way you can only succeed.
    • Is there something within yourself that needs to be modified or a personality trait that needs to be worked on? Be willing to be flexible and allow yourself to evolve.

In conclusion, identify your obstacles and then develop a plan to resolve them. Moreover, learn to deal with setbacks while letting go of any doubts, fears and impatience. Also, it’s important to believe, have faith and know you will be met with your success.